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Sex is the 'basic instinct'. At one level, above everything intellectual and earthly, the main reason why we humans ought to be alive is to eat and to have sex'. Eat so that we can stay alive and engage in sex so that we can have children - otherwise the human race would face extinction. As our civilization has progressed, we have learnt a lot such as education, arts, science, technology, economics, astronomy, agriculture... but food and sex remain a top priority even today. And that is exactly how things should stand. Because what was true for Adam and Eve, is true even today. You've gotta eat to stay alive, and gotta have sex to reproduce. Otherwise nothing will matter. Some things never do change.

And so sex is a basic instinct that is embedded deep inside us. That is until now!
Because researchers are now saying that sex drive is on a decline. Sex drive both in men and women are today at the lowest point ever. Very few couples these days have multiple orgasms in a session. And sex as a daily activity is also almost a thing of the past for most. These days, having sex has mostly become something for the weekend, when there is time. Why is this so?

Why Is The Sex Drive Going Down? What Reduces Sex Drive?

Here are some of the reasons that are known to reduce sex drive...

The Stress Factor: This is probably the number one cause. We are all working for longer hours these days and at the end of it all, both the body and the mind is simply too tired to engage in sex, which can also be very tiresome, though enjoyable. Then there are family issues and relationship complications that increase the stress. Unwanted pregnancies and fear of sexually transmitted diseases also enhance the stress levels and prevent us from engaging in sex and enjoying it.

Boredom: People who have remained partners for many years tend to get bored with each other. The body that used to increase libido once doesn't give the kick anymore. It all starts with straight sex and then couples start to experiment, but after sometime when everything has been tried, they have nothing to look forward to.

Sexual Abuse: Those who have been a victim of sexual abuse often find their sex drive at a low and have difficulty in becoming intimate. They are still in trauma and find it a problem to completely trust and submit to their partners. Marital rape can increase this. When one partner has a low sex drive because of this, it can frustrate the other and lead to complications as well.
Effect Of Medicines: Some medicines are known to reduce sex drive. Particularly when these medicines lower the androgen or the testosterone levels in the body. Tranquilizers, mood stabilizers, high BP medicines all reduce vaginal lubrication and lower sex drive and the level of arousal.

Sex Drive Goes Down With Age: Age is another factor that reduces sex drive. With aging, there are natural changes in the human body such as the testosterone levels going down and menopause - all leading to a decreased sex drive. The anxiety of aging is yet another culprit.