Coast2Coast Swingers Blog

Being single and in the lifestyle is sometimes hard to do. It could have something to do with expectations that you have for yourself and the expectation you think others have of you. You wake up in the morning eat breakfast, got to work, talk with some of your coworkers, finish your work day then drive back home and might even call your mother or one of your close girlfriends before you order your dinner for the night. You go through the motions of going out to clubs or bars trying to find a guy that will seem sane enough to start a relationship with, but the thing is all you really want to do is have sex, get up and leave them before they leave you. You get tired of trying to explain to your mother why you don't have a boyfriend or why you just sit at home on Friday and Saturday nights because she is getting more action than you. You go through the motions day after day and then finally one day you tell yourself enough is enough, I need something more.
So you start looking around the world of the internet. It is definitely one of the best inventions of the 21st century. They say what ever you are looking for can be found in this technological wonderland and low and behold I stumbled upon a few websites for adults. Now it wasn't the vanilla type adult fun that I was used to reading about. I mean I was on geo cities with the "y" before, but this world was new. When I first registered with the adult website I got the usual creepy come ons, and the continuous emails from people that just wanted to get off on just reading. I also stepped out of my box and met a couple of them, but not to my surprise they should have just stuck with writing emails.
Then it happened I met my very first actual swinger....and wow what a different world I am living in now. It took about two weeks for this guy to convince me that his wife was actually ok with me having sex with him. I got mad, got confused as to why I was getting mad. I guess I finally forgave myself for wanting to do what the vanillas call immoral. Sleeping with someone's husband, how could it be okay?
After it was explained to me the rules of the swinger lifestyle it was a little easier to accept the concept. Now my new friend and his wife had been in the lifestyle for nearly ten years so they pretty much have the communication, trust and understanding of the rules as they apply to their relationship. I went over to their den while the wifey was out of town, I was nervous didn't quite know what to expect. I couldn't have been at their house for more than fifteen minutes before the wifey called to check on the progress of the newest venture. They talked on the phone in front of me then I heard the wife call out to me to have fun.
To say the least I was still a bit stunned at the fact the idea of another woman telling me to have fun with her husband. Wow!!!!
It was a fantastic first time experience and I walked away feeling sexy, wobbly legged, and confident in my abilities to take pleasure in another woman's man. I did feel a little bit guilty for a little while, but that was because I've been so brain washed into thinking that it is wrong to have sex with another woman's husband. So I vowed to myself to not have sex with another womans' husband or man unless she knew about it and gave him permission to do so. I do what I can to keep true to that vow, but I can't always tell when someone is telling me a the truth. I try to keep the confusion down by only parttaking in parties that my group throws. I have my regulars that I know don't have women only because I've actually stayed at their places more than once to know they are not attached.
Being a single woman in the lifestyle has its perks one being you don't have to feel guilty for enjoying your sexuality. It's sometimes a turn on for some men when they find out you are a swinger, but you have to explain to them that just because you part take in the swinging lifestyle you are not a slut or promiscuous and still deserve respect. You can keep things in perspective when it comes to men and sex. You aren't having sex with hopes of getting married to that person, because that is what had been programmed in your mind by the vanilla world. You have more confidence in who you are and you enjoy your body more. It's a secrete diet pill that could never be sold on the market. Although the show "Swingtown" is trying.
The down side of being in the lifestyle is that unless you find a boyfriend who has been in the lifestyle or is in the life style they won't understand your desire to be in the lifestyle. How open the communication can be between couples that are in the lifestyle. It's just a different world all together.
So like I said in the beginning...enough is enough....get out there and be who you are. Embrace this lifestyle for all it is worth and enjoy!!!!! It has such pleasures to show you.